May God Bless the Babysitters

There are people in this world who care for other people’s children and enjoy it. I am so grateful for these people. Last month I picked up my daughter from daycare that she’d been attending since the summer.  We were moving to another area and it was her last day. I cried while saying goodbye Read More


Is Your Perfectionism Rooted in Fear?

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic  says perfectionism is fear in really good shoes. If you think about it, she’s right.  We often look at  perfectionism as this noble trait. We think,  “Abena works so hard, she just wants thing to be the best they can be”.   But maybe we want Read More


Aberdeen Cafe Love

I’m at the best café I’ve been to in a long time and it’s right across the street from Cavez’s place. Love it. love it. It’s a wide open square room with one exposed brick wall behind one side of the L-shaped serving area. On the parallel wall about 20-feet away is a large white Read More