Great article! As someone who is also a “born away” this is a conversation I’ve had before and something which I’ve given a lot of thought to. I don’t know about marrying a native speaker, my humourous solution has always been that I’ll leave my kids with my parents for a few years so they can learn Punjabi (my language) properly. But then I have to acknowledge that I was raised by parents my whole life and between media, books, movies, school and friend there were more than enough things to tempt me away from practicing Punjabi and staying within my English comfort zone. I recently heard about a couple, both ‘born aways’ where one partner’s linguistic background is Farsi and the other’s is Creole. They are both committed to having kids that speak these languages and so have started to learn each other’s language. While I’m not sure if they or their future children will be fluent I applaud the effort. Whatever partnership or child rearing situation the future holds for me if it is rooted in valuing the non-colonial languages of our roots I feel like I’ll be off to a good start.
“…at least we will have tasted the sweetness of our languages on our own tongues.”
Can’t relate to the story, can only imagine how it must be like. But, Great article and even Greater ending.
Awesome article. You took the words right out of my mouth. Im also a “born away” and havnt lived in Rwanda for more than a few months in my whole 23 years of life. I speak french and english and I understand kinyarwanda pretty well. but i do wish i could speak my language but the process just seems painful…the constant embarassment of not being able to speak the language well enough is so daunting that i dont really try which i know is bad. but i do wish sometimes that our africannes wasnt so defined by the language you speak but i wish more that tomorrow i could wake up and just speak my language…but alas.
again awesome article….
Thanks for reading Larissa and for sharing your thoughts. Its helps to know you’re not the only one struggling wi this whole language thing. Kudos to you for knowing French in addition to English. I’m still trying to get fluent in my Francais. As for the Kinyarwanda, keep trying, why not? we can do so much more than we think we can! God Bless.
hey.first of all i like that women are able to do so.me i am a proudly Rwandan,but i am wondering why many women love white people and wish to be with them.being with someone who understand u very well is good more than being with a stranger……,so keep it up we are with u and we lv u all.
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